It's easy to say, "you just don't
know him", "he's misunderstood",
and "they are ok, I've seen worse".
But. Thats only true if you don't have
anything to do with-em or they with you.
I do believe that
most people cannot learn from other people's
people"; man I'm grateful I can learn,
though I get ridiculed for it sometimes.
Are you gonna jump off that cliff cause
everybody did. Because I'm not, even though
I've never jumped off a cliff.
"It's that wonderful old-fashioned
idea that others come first and you come
second. This was the whole ethic by which
I was brought up. Others matter more than
you do, so 'don't fuss, dear; get on with
it" ~ Audrey Hepburn
This is a social circumstance. Sometimes,
ones submissiveness can be measured by
their self-esteem and buoyancy. Unless
they are engineering an impression, motivated
by an objective, who knows? That's when
ones true character comes into play in
more ways then one would think at first
impression. That's when the game begins
even before it's played on the green. Hustling
is not always a pretty dance. Even John
Travolta had to practice.
People who lie and cheat always get their
come-up-ins no matter how well they play.
I've seen it a thousand times.
Selfish and selfless, I know for sure,
I'm selfless. Cause-I-know allot of selfish
people who think they are keeping me close
as the frienenmy or colleague thing. Sadly,
I'm related to some. It makes me ill, literally
ill. But at the same time grateful.
Sometimes, ones charm
is a reflection of the people around them.
Like a chameleon, like children emulating
there environment or what they only know
or learned, mimicking their older sibling,
parents and guardians. If your kids got
a big mouth you only have yourself to blame.
Behavior, actions, decisions making and
handling of a situation and-or-communication
in some small part comes from a personality-blue-print
mixed with time and understanding. How-ever
they understood it in time.
"Art is born of humiliation" ~W.
H. Auden. Yes I do agree. Their are some
people I know who are definitely a piece
Embarrassment and humiliation,
supposedly, leads to a kind of prudence
for some. Experience is the path to wisdom,
so they say. But experience to some is
more like street cone. Repeating the same
shit over again and again until they get
different results. Nuts.
Ones sense of shame and
dignity is usually a tell tale of one's
maturity. But if they're too proud and
heedless to know they should feel embarrassment...
well... they're scary. Especially when
they're older on the outside and not on
"Those children who are beaten will
in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated
will be intimidating, those who are humiliated
will impose humiliation to others and even
on too themselves, and those whose souls
are murdered will murder" ~Alice Miller
The adult juvenile. Might
be a person who has 1. Never known genuine
respect and admiration from others. 2.
Been spoiled rotten as a child. Or 3. Had
their dignity compromised as a child. A
common behaivor is writing off critical
experiences in your adult life as a situation
to be delt with, rather than an experience
to notate and learn from. This is circumstantial
of course. But for sure, its a sign of
something inside the head that needs attention.
The inner child drives
you (the adult). Too people and places.
Too your company. To your wants and needs.
The inner child, if traumatized, turns
into the worst part of you as an adult.
Sometimes you find the best part of you
in others. Sometimes you find the worst
part of you in others. The company to you
keep. They become your best friend, they
become your catalyst or they become your
vice. They might even become your target.
Pain sometimes makes us who we are.
When the inner child and the adult disagree,
the referee occasionally, is a glass of